We are all, it goes without saying, naturally beautiful. Whatever our size, shape, height or style, we are gorgeous creatures. Especially when we flash a lovely big genuine smile. However, there are a quite a few beauty secrets that we spend time on that help us attain that natural beauty that most of our partners know nothing about. Especially at the beginning of a relationship!
I’ve been living with the same man for almost three decades, but there are still things I do in the privacy of the bathroom that I don’t ever want him to witness. Of course I’m not alone in this am I ladies?! Turns out quite a few women believe their boyfriend/husband/partner would be completely turned off if they saw them doing their most intimate grooming.
Many of our partners are blissfully unaware of the extent of our maintenance regimes. I knew a woman who used to get up before her husband, re-apply full make up and then return to bed just before he woke up. So he, as far as I know, never saw her naked face. However comfortable we get with a partner, most of us will never ever let them know how much effort goes into looking good.
So, what are the beauty secrets we most commonly hide?
Remember when Jamie Lee Curtis was bleaching her upper lip in a Fish Called Wanda? Who can forget it! Getting rid of our moustaches is essential work, especially as we get older (and hairier in all the wrong places!) I prefer hair remover and my fave product for this job is Nair Upper Lip Kit. It used to come in a pot with a brush to apply the hair removal cream. But I was delighted to see that they have improved the product by putting the cream into a tube with an integral (and much better) plastic applicator. You also get a tube of fragrance-free moisturiser which is soothing and, in my case, seems to prevent any redness. More on removing facial hair here.
Then there’s having to shave or pluck hair from our underarms, legs, arms, body and bikini line. And, if like me, you get the odd hair escaping from your nostril, check out my recent post on how to tackle stragglers. We’ve also written some great tips on facial hair removal (don’t worry, not with a razor!)
Removing hard skin from our feet
Is the Bio Sana Pedi-File Foot Dresser the best in the world for this inelegant job? I think so!
Looking like the monster from the black lagoon for a few minutes while locked in the bathroom is often a worthwhile exercise as a face pack can really help illuminate your skin.
Body slimming underwear
I wear a body every single day – come rain or shine. It makes me feel more confident having my muffin top smoothed out a bit. Personally I find the more structured shapewear too restrictive but love this one from good old M&S.
Chicken fillet in our bras
My bust is rather matronly and so I can only wish I had to use chicken fillets in my bra. But I have always wondered why women bother with them. Surely the game will be well and truly up when it comes to bedtime? I do remember when I was a teenager and had a flat chest, that I rather naively filled my bikini top with loo paper to make it look as if I had bosoms. Worked brilliantly until I finished swimming and saw the paper trailing behind me in the water!
Cutting our toe nails
Got to be done of course, clean short nails being the aim.
Not wanting to look pasty when the sun starts shining means many of us want to fake a golden glow rather than pasty white skin. But rather than suddenly turning a deep (and possibly streaky) orange while you partner is out, might be a better idea to use a gradual tanning moisturiser like ThisWorks
Gosh, we seem to dye everything these days… eyelashes, eyebrows (I even got mine semi permanently tattooed), highlighting, low lighting or dipping our hair to name but a few.
Secret squirts of breath freshener
Essential after garlic munching or a long day out without recourse to a toothbrush. Naturally none of us want to admit we might need it. Check out our tips on how to prevent bad breath.
I have been known to use Botox and/or filler (such as Restylane) or CACI to smooth out my old face. I got away with the CACI and the Botox but husband always notices my temporary tiny bruises from the filler. And paying for these treatments can be an issue if you have a joint bank account. So, like several other women I know, I save up cash so my enhancements can remain a secret.
So, what do you think? Are you so comfortable with your partner that you divulge all or some aspects of your beauty regime? Or do you think it’s important to preserve the mystique and keep the preening a secret affair?